I've been in a trauma-informed training program for the last six months.
This is by no means a comprehensive list, but we studied Developmental Trauma, Non-Violent Communication, Shame/Guilt/Forgiveness as it pertains to trauma, Reframing Paradigms, Internal Family Systems and Parts Therapy, Somatic Practices, Sexual Blocks, Masculine/Feminine Dynamics which included a Sexuality Clinic, Boundaries, Edging (Taking someone to the edge of their discomfort zone), Regulation Resources, Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), Breathwork, Sound Healing, Joyful Living, Manifestation, and the last module we studied was Mastering Money.
Now, as a Money Coach, this was the easiest module for me, and to be honest, I could've taught this module.
However, I am all about growth, so I went into the homework with a beginner's mindset, re-watched the training video and spent a lot of time journaling and reflecting on the questions, even if I had already done this type of work before.
Why? Because I want to make sure that what I present to you and to my clients is always at the very top of my game. I don't want to be one of those teachers who've been teaching the same materials for 20 years and it's all outdated.
(I know you had one of those teachers, when you were in school.)
The other reason? I believe that in order to help YOU with your money, I have to continuously look at where MY edges are and where I can do even better, to get to my next level.
A few things jump out at me.
1. It's not how much money you earn. It's what you DO with the money that matters.
FACT: 15% of people not born into wealth became wealthy on LESS than $100K per year! That means they had the know-how, the willingness, and the discipline to do what makes the biggest difference in taking what they make and making the most out of it!
This point is huge. How you do one thing is how you do everything, and this applies to your money. If you can't manage $25K, $35K, $45K, you won't be able to manage $100K, $250K, $500K, $1 Million. It's why 70% of people who win the lottery or receive a big windfall go bankrupt within 3 years! THREE years!!!
2. "It's selfish to be broke." - Grant Cardone
What the what? That sounds like some entitled rich person bullsh*t, but hear him out. He's not saying YOU are a horribly selfish person, if you're broke. Instead, he's saying when you're broke, you tend to be selfish because you're more focused on the lack, the scarcity, the debts, the limitations and what you don't have. Instead, when you have money, don't have the debts weighing you down, and have some savings in the bank, you can operate outside of yourself. It's like Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.
You can't get to achieve your full potential and become the powerfully creative person you want to be, until you satisfy your basic needs of food, shelter, water, rest, safety, security and so on. It's very challenging to make money doing what you love, when you're living in survival mode. It's like oxygen. If you don't have oxygen, you're just trying NOT to die and all you can focus on is trying to get a small breath of oxygen. There is no way, you can even do anything beyond that....and while that's not quite selfish, in my opinion, it IS self-absorbed because you can't help but fixate on what you need, in order to survive.
3. "Money can give us the time to develop our gifts and talents, but not the courage to do so." - from the book The Tao of Abundance
Recently, I had a session with a client who had lost her "side hustle job." She was fearful and came into the session believing that it was not possible for her to succeed. Her savings was depleted, and she felt so low that she didn't feel worthy enought to even allow herself to manifest! She also knew that if she had to go back to that "side hustle job," she "would die."
She wanted to be an audiobook narrator, an actor, and she had invested her money in a course and in setting up her home studio, and yet, there was something holding her back on going all in. At first, she didn't trust God or the Universe or even the process, and yet, she was willing to go deeper with me, in spite of her fears.
As one of my spiritual coaches says, "Courage isn't the absence of fear. Courage is the ability to feel the fear and do it anyway."
What came through in that session was suprising to her (and to me)...it was her sister's voice telling her that she's worthy, that it's OK to let go, that she doesn't have to please everybody, to be free, and to trust that she's safe.
I saw this client in a different setting, in person, this weekend, and I didn't recognize her. She told me that our session was life changing for her. Not only did she see herself differently, right afterwards, she booked TWO audiobook narration jobs!
In the book, Secrets of the Millionaire Mind, it says:
“If you are not fully, totally, and truly committed to creating wealth, chances are you won’t...If your goal is to be comfortable, chances are you’ll never get rich. But if your goal is to be rich, chances are you’ll end up mighty comfortable...(and) if you want to move to a higher level of life, you have to be willing to let go of some of your old ways of thinking and being and adopt new ones."
In order to achieve true financial freedom, you have to be willing to take a look at your old programming, what you heard and experienced growing up that shapes how you see the world and money, and now, as an adult, you get to choose whether you want to hold onto that belief, give it back to whomever it belonged to, or release it (either with love or with light).
When we discover what may be blocking us, then we have a much greater chance of taking the steps we need to get to where we want to go.
With Gratitude & Love,
Speaking of courage, my business coach, Dallas Travers, is hosting a half-day workshop called Permission Granted where she's going to help you strip away all of the distractions and focus on the foundational work we all need to play a bigger game in business.
I’ll be there on Wednesday, the 22nd or Saturday, the 25th, so I’ll hope you check it out below...
Dallas wants us all to:
💥 Let go of the stuff that didn’t work in the past.
💥 Be brave and put ourselves out there because we trust ourselves completely
💥 Stop seeking permission and just grant it to ourselves, already!
I know it’ll be a fantastic event because Dallas always delivers.
Let me know if you have any questions.
And if you want to discover your money blocks, get beyond living in survival mode and learn how to manage the money you have now AND make more (and we haven't worked together before), let's talk!