The other day, while on a walk with my husband, he turns to me and says,
“We just have very different values.”
I knew instantly what he was talking about, so I laughed.
Before I tell you what happened, I have to let you know that working with our Core Values has been a game changer for my husband and myself.
We know our individual Core Values, and we know our family core values, and this has helped us navigate when our core values don’t align, so that it doesn’t lead to an argument.
It’s why this month in the Financial Freedom for Creatives Club, I devote an entire month of training just on Core Values - figuring out what your values are and then how to work with them. It’s how I help clients and members make money decisions and how it makes paying off debts, saving, and spending that much easier because you’re aligned with those values. If you want to join the Financial Freedom for Creatives Club, just click below.
Now, back to the story.
I had to come home early, for a medical thing, so I called the airlines and hotel to make the changes and to also see if I can get my last night’s stay refunded.
The airline was great. They credited the points I used for the previous flight back, and then they took the points needed for the new flight. (I also got to sit in a row by myself on this return flight, making the decision to come home a day earlier that much sweeter!)
However, the hotel was another story.
They made me go through Chase Travel because they were the “3rd party” I booked it through. When I called Chase, they had to contact the hotel several times to get their permission, and for some reason, the hotel never answered the phone until the morning I was leaving. Then, they referred it all back to someone else and said that I would need a doctor’s note. (I had heard from a lot of people who stayed at the Sheraton for the summit that they had terrible experiences with the hotel.)
When I came home, I called my surgeon’s office, and spoke to the nurse about writing the doctor’s note. She did it, and I submitted everything to an Expedia @ Marriot.com email. (Strange because I didn’t book through Expedia…)
Anyway…I also told the nurse about what happened, and why I needed to leave. She then talked to the surgeon, who told her that he needed me to come in earlier and get checked out.
So, I told my husband the whole story, and that’s why he said that we just have different values.
I have to say that normally our values really align, but on this day, what he meant was…he had been trying to get me to call my doctor ever since I was having some issues while I was away.
However, I never called until I needed the doctor’s note to get the partial refund.
Yes, I admit it. I’m someone who is money motivated. I’m motivated to do things when there’s money on the line, and not everyone is. I took part in a 6 or 8 week research study because they were going to give me $600. Was the time worth it? Maybe not for some people, but for me, it was. And yes, I didn’t call the doctor’s office immediately when I was having issues. Instead, I waited until I was home to call and only because I needed that doctor’s note.
Now, I know that many of you reading this may not relate and are probably not money motivated like me. My husband definitely isn’t. He’s called the surgeon’s office more often than I do, and he’s talked to that nurse more than I have because he’s motivated by his concern for me and my health. During the aftermath of my surgery last November, he drove all over town looking for this thing that the nurse had said could potentially help my situation. Again, his motivation is driven by his concern for me and my health. If it was up to me, I would’ve just waited it out.
So what do you do when you have financial goals, and you want to change your relationship with your money. However, you’re not as motivated by money, as I am?
Well, then you have to dig deep my friends! What will motivate you? Start with those core values and then keep finding an emotional place for it.
A new client recently had to dig deep because she’s not very money motivated. She’s a very creative writer, actor, and teacher. When I asked why she wanted to achieve the financial goals she mentioned, at first she just said “to make life easier.”
When I asked why it was important to make life easier, she said that she wants the freedom to make decisions from a place of abundance and lack.
Then, I asked her why that freedom was so important, and she said that she believes it’s our birthright.
Again, I asked her why that birthright piece was so important, and then she said “because it makes her feel powerful and empowered in her body and being and she can be in control of what can be in her control.”
This gave her goosebumps and made her emotional. And that right here is the motivation she needed to be able to really move forward in her financial goals.
So, let me know in the comments below – are you money motivated? If so, I’d love to hear examples so that we can have this common bond! If not, what is your deeper WHY? Let me know in the comments too!
If you don’t know and want support, I’m here! Send me a message or better yet, join us in the Financial Freedom for Creatives Club.
With Love & Gratitude,